The most important thing you can do is to grow your spiritual sensitivity.
What I mean is, draw close to God. Grow that relationship.
Developing a sensitivity to God will give you a perspective that will cut through a whole whack of mess along the road.
Sensitive to God we do not give people too much say in our lives.
Sensitive to God we are healed from idolizing leaders (and setting them up for failure).
Sensitive to God our motives are purified, our reasoning is clarified and our steps going forward take on a strength that cannot otherwise be found.
Grow in sensitivity.