Bitter root judgments are nasty business. The thing is, we’ve all had them.
A bitter-root judgment is recognized by the decisions we have made about how life works. Its the determinations about people and places and things.
The problem with bitter-root judgments is that they are not conclusively true. We may have recognized a certain truth but then, in our judgment, blew it up out of proportion and have often assigned the same judgment to multiple people and situations.
And what we expect, that is what we get.
What we focus on, grows.
The part of the judgment that is bitter is the power of judgment itself and then the results.
We do in fact reap what we sow.
Sow a judgment that people are mean-spirited, and you will find your world filled with mean-spirited people.
Reap such a judgment and your original declaration about people (that they are mean-spirited) is validated and justified and proven true.
And you get even more mean spirited people coming across your path.
Do we really want to be ‘right’ in such a case? Are we really glad to be proven correct?
This pattern of judgment and then harvesting the crop of our judgments, is a never ending cycle that in our natural humanity we have no way to stop.
For starters, judgments come from the deepest core of our beings. They take root in childhood where often something went wrong, an injustice was felt, an observation was made, and in our childish thinking we concluded that such-and-such was just the way life is.
We were fed a lie, and we believed it, and we carry it on to this day.
Our lives today reveal the bitter-root judgments of our former years.
The only way to break free is to lay our judgments down. To take a good look at what we are believing and really decide if these things are true or not. It is a process of removing condemnation.
Are all people mean-spirited? No, of course not. Are some? Sure, some are. But not all by any means.
Changing the conclusions we have made about people, places and things requires humility. Our pride must be laid aside to allow our conclusions to be rendered false.
Because really, these conclusions, when swung with a wide brush are really condemnations. And again, when we sow condemnations we will in fact reap those same condemnations.
So the one believing that people are mean-spirited takes on the very same traits and manner of being that are hated and despised, they become mean-spirited themselves. You can even hear the mean spirit in the judgment, “All people are mean-spirited!”
So it is with every judgment. For judgments are not about mere observations. They are so much more. It is quite possible to make an observation without judgment, without adding meaning, yet this is a skill of the aged, generally not the young.
As youngsters (and I mean anyone under the age of 40), we add meaning to everything and everyone around us. We ascribe motive and intent to others actions and reactions when we really have very little clue about what is going on in the other person.
So a few questions to ask:
What are some judgments you might have made?
Are you glad to be reaping them?
How are these serving you today? What kind of validations are they accomplishing, and if you released them what might there be instead?
What would you really like out of life and people and places and things?